Tips for Hard Conversations from Laurie Gerber and Tal Rachleff
1. You don’t know what the other person will say, so forget your expectations.
2. Get yourself in a good space. Ask yourself : What got me in trouble in the past before in hard conversations? Own up to your own past failings.
3. Do a practice run with someone who has nothing to do with the person—or to the mirror or writing it out for yourself as a test.
4. Ask the person permission to have time for a conversation. Tell them why. Say “It’s important to me because…” I love you, I want to have an honest relationship with you, etc.etc.
Tell them how you feel: “I’m afraid this will come out wrong, this will make you mad, etc. etc” so that you’re more able to speak and humanizes you.
5. Make it safe for them to hear you because what you say may upset them. Balance grace (being nice) and wisdom (the hard truth) in conversations with people.
Find out more here: http://www.yogateachertelesummit.com/toughconversations/
I love it: laugh at people who are mean to you.
Chandra Easton really inspired me with her story of the Tibetan Yogini, Machig Labdrön, who became a nun at a young age, and gave it up to wander as an ascetic when she realized that being a nun gave her knowledge but not the experience of that knowledge.
And in the last 20-25 minutes, Chandra Easton shares the Feeding your Demons way of working through whatever ails you. Try it out! I have a really vivid imagination, and it was a little uncomfortable imagining my demon in physical form.